At lunch, our table is lovingly referred to as "The View" because we discuss a variety of great subjects, we have guest attendees and no topic is off limits. I really just hope I'm not Elizabeth Hasselback because, while her fashion sense is commendable, she totally annoys me. Anyway, I digress. Last week, we were discussing the dating scene and all that it entails. What exactly does dating mean? When are you dating someone and when are you just having fun? Why don’t guys always get the difference? It probably goes without saying that men and women have differing opinions on the subject. But from the girls at our lunch table's perspective here you have it. Boys listen up.
"Fun" is:
- Texting is the main mode of communication.
- Meeting up with someone for the sole purpose of, well, to put it out there, getting it on.
- If you get together, great. If not, no bigs.
- Waking up the next morning, unmentionables stuffed in your wristlet, heels in hand, and high-tailing it out of his place...as quietly as possible BTW.
- Texting a guy/girl on Friday to see if he wants to grab a drink on Friday night.
- Sharing a meal with a person of the opposite sex without any commitment to walk his dog, however both of you know, he definitely has to pay the tab.
- Not making plans with each other but running into each other while out and about....you may or may not spend the night together as a result.
- He meets your friends because your run into him while out with your friends.
- He doesn't have a real name when you discuss him with your girlfriends...he gets a nickname only. I.e. Random Andrew, Ace or G.I. Joe.
- There is no assumption to do anything with him on "date" night.
- Your family doesn't necessarily know he exists.
- Holidays are just another day and no gifts are necessary. And, she fully understands and accepts that. (Good luck with this one guys.)
- If there is an event that requires a plus one, you really have to think about who you would bring.
- No exclusivity is implied, expected or even wanted...yet.
Dating is:
- It's Friday night and you notify him about your plans that may or may not include him.
- You pack an overnight purse with an extra set of unmentionables, a toothbrush and sensible shoes for breakfast the next morning.
- You do your make-up or hair in his bathroom before going out somewhere...together or separately.
- You leave (and he's ok with you leaving) absolutely anything at his place that you fully intend to use, pick-up or see again. If your stuff has a place at his place, it's dating.
- You don't just run into each other out and about. You're out. He's out, but you both know where each other is and then you run into each other.
- You make and follow through with plans with each other...dinner, dates, trips, visits, etc.
- He meets your friends on purpose.
- You split the bill this time, because he's picked up the tab the last few times.
- He brings you flowers back from the grocery store while he's picking up the ingredient you forgot that you sent him to get.
- You see him a couple times per week...regularly.
- He watches The Bachelor with you not just for the bikini-clad Bachelorettes.
- He has a real name to your friends.
- The girl buys him any type of apparel, unless it's a graphic tee depicting something from Old School.
- You can actually call him on his phone, anytime for any reason.
- The subject of exclusivity may not have been clearly defined, but if there is an event that requires a plus one, you would have to find a way out of bringing this guy...because you are dating him.
I could go on and on and on. The moral of the story is girls and guys often times think about matters of the heart very differently. I’m not an overly emotional girly girl, however, there are some actions that lead me (and most girls) to imply things that may not have been said (yet)….see list above. If those things are happening, the way I’ve described, this is what we think is going on. Guys, you’re welcome.
Happy Dating or Fun...whatever you are doing!
xo~
Elizabeth
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