It's OK Thursday

Here we go!!! It's OK...

Not to write a blog for over 2 weeks and then write a really long one and a shorter one all in 2 days.  It's my blog and I'll blog when I want.

To wear white after Labor Day. OK maybe not white shoes, but frankly, unless you are Minnie Mouse, you shouldn't be wearing white shoes.  Ever.  White pants and skirts are totally fine until the leaves changes.

To get on the O's bandwagon.  If you are not on, get on.  This is some good stuff happening in Charm City.  Orioles Magic feel it happen!

To live a life of "oh wells" rather than "I wish I hads".

To spend $350 on a dress you absolutely love (and looks amazing) and you will truly wear to the 4 weddings you have to go to as the only single girl.  Buy some rocking shoes too!

To be overly kind to someone who is grumpy or call out (in a respectful way) a service employee who isn't treating you kindly.  We should all strive to give good service even if people annoy us and we should always be kind to one another.

To have a work boyf or work wife...sometimes you just need some perspective from another person who doesn't want to sleep with you and you don't want to sleep with them.

To wear orange and purple together. They are the new black and white in Baltimore this September.

To invite yourself over to your friend's house for wine, appetizers and girl time.  She probably needs it as much as you and the bestest girlfriends are so excited you took charge of making it happen.

To look out for you and make choices that make you happy or will lead to your happiness...even if they are hard and even if everyone does not agree.

To day dream about anything...winning the lottery, quitting your job, moving to the islands, being a mama, going to Vegas and/or marrying Mark Reynolds .  Just remember, you control much of your life...if your day dream becomes a real dream...take action.

P.S. ~ Anyone have Mark's cell #? I have a friend who'd like to meet him.  :-)

What's everyone else think on this glorious Thursday???

xo~
Elizabeth

That's Not Fair and It's Better That Way

Today my dear readers, I am going to rant about the issue of fairness. I hope you don't think that is unfair to read my rant...but if you do, you can stop reading at any time. That makes it fair, right?  I'm super frustrated with the intolerance and misunderstanding the concept. So when things strike me, I'm writing about them. Here goes...

fair·ness

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noun

1. the state, condition, or quality of being fair, or free from bias or injustice; evenhandedness:

2. free from discrimination, dishonesty, etc; just; impartial

Nowhere in that definition does is say that everyone should get the same things that everyone else gets.  Nowhere in that definition does is say that others won't get something that you do. It also doesn't say that you won't get less at times.  Fairness is hard to understand.  More than reading the literal definition and understanding the concept in general, I do not understand the rush to judgement that something (non-life threatening, of course), "Is not fair".  Hello ~~~ life is not the same for everyone and we don't all get the same things.  Furthermore, why would we want it that way?

Why, as humans, do we not have the gut reaction of support for others over the fear we are missing out or not getting something more or better, even if we don't need more or better?  Why can human nature be so darn negative?  Is that fair?

It is unfathomable that a 7 year old girl is fighting for her life against a deadly form of Leukemia.  It's disgusting that 12 people who went to see the new Batman movie are no longer with us.  It's completely unjust that a precious little boy I know had 3 brain surgeries before he was 3 years old.  These things are unfair. These things are uncontrollable. Yet many times survivors and loved ones find blessings in the unfairness. They get it. They are given no choice.

Life is full of tragedy and injustice but when it comes to other issues that we have full control over, such as offering schedule flexibility to a new mother, providing a student without means, the means to do something great, or offering help, coaching or support to a struggling teammate, is it considered to be unfair??? 

Can't our first reaction be that of support, encouragement, love, consideration, teamwork, thankfulness and hope that if and when we need some "fairness", the same might be offered to us?  Can't we look at the those situations and trust that the decisions being made are in the best interest of everyone involved? Are we so far gone, that we can longer be kind?  And, if we are kind, why on earth is that considered to be unfair?

If fairness meant that everyone got the same treatment, the same pay, the same scope of responsibility, the same type of flexibility or inflexibility, the same, the same, the same....life would be pretty freaking dull, predictable, unimaginative and lack a ton of motivation. People would be droning around the world in the typical probably wearing flats. Yuck!

Fairness isn't about getting the same. It's about being unbias and being free from dishonesty.  It's about giving each other what we need to be successful. It's finding creative ways to lift each other. It's about being more. It's selfless. If we think about in those terms before claiming something is unfair, I think most of us (myself definitely included) would come to realize, we have all we need, we sometimes get more than we need, we sometimes lose, but in the end, we are beyond fortunate and we should be happy with what we have.

Please, before you rush to make a claim of unfairness, stop, think and do the following first.

Be kind. Be flexible. Be open. Don't jump quickly to conclusions. Don't be selfish. Be thankful. Be understanding. Have compassion.  And, most importantly, be a friend first.

Then tell me if it's unfair.

xo~
Elizabeth